In light of the tragedy last Friday, Juli and I wanted to offer some helpful suggestions to assist families in dealing with this tragedy. All of our hearts were broken as we watched and listened to the unfolding events. Certainly, our children listened and watched as well. Here are a few things that we hope will serve you as you shepherd your children.

1. Decide how much your children need to know. Many children in school will hear details from their friends. Basic facts will probably be enough for them. As a parent, be diligent to let them hear these facts from you. Be diligent to monitor what they are hearing and watching.
2. Be honest and open about your feelings. Let them know how sad you are feeling. Let them know that Mom and Dad don’t understand everything that happens in life. Tell them its okay to be sad, confused and even angry. Encourage your kids to tell you how they feel.
3. Express positive things to them. There are lots of people doing wonderful and loving things to help these grieving families. Like Mr. Rogers said, “In every tragedy, my mother would tell me to look at the helpers.” Help your kids look at the helpers.
4. Take this opportunity to teach your children that God is sovereign. God is in charge and He is watching us every moment. God allows people the freedom to choose. There are some people who choose to do wrong and the consequences of their choice can hurt others.
5. Pray with them. Pray for God’s comforting presence to minister to all the families in Newtown. Pray for God’s wisdom on school teachers and pastor’s who are in touch with these grieving families. Thank God for his abiding presence and His unfailing love. Allow your children to pray.
Here is another link that offers some great insights to help navigate our children through rough waters.

http://truministry.com/2012/12/17/talking-to-your-children-about-the-sandy-hook-elementary-tragedy-in-connecticut/
Prayerfully,
Juli and Tim

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